It’s easy to get caught up in the cycle of reactivity, worry, and negative thinking that stems from our evolution as a species and a tendency to go into fight-or-flight mode in order to survive. The great challenge arises when there is a situation and we must take a step back, objectively review and understand what is happening, and then act from a more secure, grounded and loving place.
This is a topic that I have given a lot of thought to while observing and relaxing for two months during the quiet quarantine days of recent times, but also during the days ahead, depending on the various circumstances and relationships in my life that I have. have come together. in interesting ways. Generally speaking, when something surprising happens to me it almost becomes an internal joke as you’ll often hear me say, “life is too much fun”, and it’s usually the result of acting out for love versus fear.
Here are some of my thoughts:
One of my core values is abundance, which for me means knowing that the universe has my back and will always provide, in some way, exactly what it means. Now it’s not something that came easily to me, as I grew up experiencing a lot of scarcity, not knowing what was possible, but trying to survive as much as I could. So long into my adult years, I’ll expend so much energy worrying about the little things, about not having enough, about not having enough, or about no way out if I need something. Will be able to get
But what I began to notice during my travels was that whenever I really needed something to happen, once I completely let go and put my trust in it, things would be fine. Will go Now don’t get me wrong – I wasn’t taking my hand off the steering wheel – I’ve always approached life with intent and constantly pouring my energy into the world, but I stopped focusing so much on what I didn’t Given more about what I did. It helps my current daily routine of showing gratitude, to be reminded of all that this world has to offer.
So to add to that, what I’ve found is that either way – if you’re thinking about what bad can happen to you, or on the other hand, all the good things that can happen to you – you’ll make that a reality. Have you ever worried about getting yourself sick about something, until it actually happened? Or have you dreamed of something you wanted so badly that you took all the steps to focus on it until it happened? There are two sides to every coin, and either way, you are in charge of building your life and the direction you are headed.
So one of the more difficult decisions I’ve had to make recently was whether or not I was going to stay on my favorite island in the world in Thailand, or make my way back to Vancouver, Canada to get out of the pandemic. When I realized this wasn’t going to be a short-term circumstance (and yes, I realize this decision came from a place of great privilege – I don’t take it lightly). My focus was to focus on what was better for me based on my love for that direction, not fear. Thoughts were swirling through my mind – what if we run out of supplies on this island, or what if I can’t get to at some point and I’m literally stuck here for a long time (even though it’s gorgeous and natural, and would be my second choice right now, after the fact).
But I also knew I wanted to go to someone I loved — my family, my closest friends, and one time I had a FaceTime call with my 1-year-old nephew and saw him stare at my face on the screen. “Kiss” me, I knew right away that I wanted to go back. I felt a lot more at peace with that decision, knowing that I was doing it out of love, or running away from fear, or in the opposite direction. was progressing.
From here, the possibilities are truly endless. Focusing on the momentum ahead to move toward love and joy always yields the best results, or at least the best journey, which is what matters most to me. Even if things don’t turn out the way you expect or expect in a given amount of time, I think my experiences have shown me where these kinds of decisions are coming from. That’s what’s in my best interest. Not only me, but others, in all aspects of my life – business, relationships, travel and everything in between.
In short, My mantra for deciding for love versus fear includes thoughts around:
- abundance, abundance, abundance
- Where meditation goes, energy flows
- easy decisions
- heart action
Now it’s your turn.
What one decision have you made recently in which you have decided to move towards love instead of running away from fear and how did it turn out? #scalinglove. If you acted out of lack, how could you show up and make that decision for love? “Is life too fun?” What will motivate you to notice your own moments?
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